For many of us, the New Year is a welcome, fresh start. Disappointed by some aspect of the previous year, a new year feels like a time for hopeful optimism. But, for many of us that optimism fades or even grinds to a halt along with our New Year’s resolutions. Research has shown that about half of all adults make New Year’s resolutions. However, fewer than 10% manage to keep them for more than a few months.
So, what to do? Do we just stop setting goals? When we identify areas of where we want to grow in our lives, should we even bother trying to change?
If you know me at all, you know my answer is a resounding “yes”. I am convinced that there is always hope for a way forward. I want to encourage all of us to dream, plan and grow. But, how? What do we do when our resolve is starting to wear thin and the realities of life set in? When several weeks into the new year and our shiny new planner with its lofty goals has barely been opened?
Here are four things that might help you take a fresh look at your goals – whether you need to hit restart or just keep, keepin’ on.
Be realistic about your obstacles. Half the battle is just identifying the things that stand in your way. Is it you? Is it a life circumstance? Is it a discouraging spouse? Is it financial? Is it pace – did you try to cram a five-year goal into a one-year time-frame? As we’re nearly a month into the new year, you should be able to recognize the things that keep tripping you up. Once you’ve identified the things holding you back, you can tweak your plan forward. You may even find that you need adjust your goal slightly. Your goals should challenge and stretch you but they should also be attainable and practical.- Stay focused on a few things. The surest way to lose a battle is to open too many fronts at once. If you spread yourself too thin, you won’t be able to see progress in any one area and discouragement will set in.
- Tell someone your resolution. Accountability is a proven key to success. Never be afraid to ask for help and support from those around you. Letting a family-member, friend, or co-worker know that you have goals for 2017 will go a long way toward following through. The more specific, the better. As an added bonus, when those close to you know you’re trying to make a change, they can help remove temptation. For instance, if my husband knows I’m trying to start a new, earlier morning routine, he might be less likely to suggest a late-night movie.
- Change your behavior WITH others. Trying to change habits on your own can be difficult. For example, many people have found strength in starting a new diet or exercise routine by joining with someone else. If you know your running partner is waiting for you at the trailhead, you’re less likely to talk yourself out of going. My personal coaching workshops combine these last two because they thrive on the idea that we are “in it” together – with built-in homework, discussion, and follow-up.
If you’ve lapsed a little bit already this year, give yourself time to be “in process.” Setbacks are inevitable that when you’re attempting life change. Accept any hindrances as part of the learning process and keep moving forward! And remember, people who make New Year’s resolutions are ten times more likely to achieve their goals than those who don’t.
