At the end of the first four months of 2018, many of us may be disappointed by our progress toward our goals. What was a time for hopeful optimism in January may have slowed to a painful crawl. Research has shown that about half of all adults make resolutions each year, but fewer than 10% manage to keep them for more than a few months.
So, what to do? Do we stop setting goals? When we identify areas of where we want to grow in our lives, should we even bother trying to change?
If you’ve been part of our conversation, you know my answer is “yes!”
I am convinced that there is always a way forward, even when the path is rocky or overgrown. We all need to dream, plan and grow. But, how? What do we do when our resolve is starting to wear thin, and the realities of day-to-day life take us off course? When we’re more than a quarter into the new year, and we’ve rarely looked at our lofty goals that were carefully detailed in our once shiny, new planner?
Here are four things that might help you take a fresh look at your goals – whether you need to hit restart or just keep, keepin’ on.
Be realistic about your obstacles. Half the battle is just identifying the things that stand in your way. Is it you? Is it a life circumstance? Is it a discouraging spouse? Is it financial? Is it pace – did you try to cram a five-year goal into a one-year goal? As we’re into the second quarter of 2018, you should be able to recognize the things that keep tripping you up. Once you’ve identified the things holding you back, you can tweak your plan forward. You may even find that you need to adjust your goal slightly. Your goals should challenge and stretch you but they should also be attainable and practical.
Stay focused on a few things. The surest way to lose a battle is to open too many fronts at once. If you spread yourself too thin, you won’t be able to see progress in any one area and discouragement will set in.
Tell someone your resolution. Accountability is a proven key to success. Never be afraid to ask for help and support from those around you. Letting a family member, friend, or co-worker know that you have goals for 2018 will go a long way toward helping you follow through. The more specific, the better. As a bonus, when those close to you know you’re trying to make a change, they can help remove temptation. For instance, if my husband knows I’m trying to start a new, earlier morning routine, he might be less likely to suggest a late-night movie.
Change your behavior with others. Trying to change habits on your own can be difficult. For example, many people have found strength in starting a new diet or exercise routine by joining with someone else. If you know your running partner is waiting for you at the trailhead, you’re less likely to talk yourself out of going.
My coaching workshops combine these last two topics because they thrive on the idea that we are “in it” together – with built-in homework, discussion, and follow-up. The more you share your ideas, seek accountability and plan group activities around your goals, the more likely you are to succeed.
If you’ve lapsed a little bit already this year, give yourself time to be “in process.” Some delays or setbacks are inevitable when you’re attempting serious life and professional changes. Accept any setbacks as part of the learning process and keep moving forward! And remember, people who take the time to set, regularly review, and continually take steps toward their goals, are ten times more likely to achieve results than those who don’t. If you’re struggling, my inbox is open: Sarah@SarahBoxx.com.
